Summary of greetings at the funeral

at the funeral

At times like this, I'm at a loss as to what kind of greeting to give at the funeral.
At funerals, it is customary to give a slightly more formal greeting to the people you usually meet.
To A, a friend who always goes out for a drink on his way home from work, he said, "Oh, how are you doing?
Thank you for coming to the funeral today! "Doesn't tighten.
And what about this greeting at the funeral? Isn't it polite to your close friends and not formal at the time of the funeral?
You might think that. I have the impression that the funeral procedure is also difficult,
I have the impression that greetings are also very difficult. It is basically NG if you do it with the usual glue.

I will explain the "funeral greeting", which is a troublesome problem for the mourner, with examples.

There is no absolute rule in the greeting of the mourner! However, there are some points to be aware of

The bottom line is that anyone reading this article may be weak.
In fact, there is no "must say this" rule at the funeral.
Certainly, you will be asked for a more formal greeting than in everyday life, and the funeral is the first to be courteous to your close friends. Even if there are no rules, it is basically NG in a tone like when inviting a friend's izakaya. Then, what kind of tone and what kind of greeting should I give?

To put it simply, the important thing is to "use polite language," "do not use words that should not be used at funerals," and "simply convey the main points." Let's consider an example.

The funeral is neither a place to interact with close acquaintances nor a dinner party.
Moreover, the banquet is not the main thing. That's why I want to be careful not to use too crushed tone in greetings. For example, suppose all the people who attended the funeral were familiar with the mourner's face, and some of them often went on a trip. Normally, I would say "Thank you for coming, everyone!" With a light touch, but it is safer to refrain from doing so at the funeral.

A funeral is a place called a "funeral." It's more about the end of someone's life and seeing off than the relationship with the people who are gathering. That's why, let's keep in mind the polite wording that matches the atmosphere of the place. Even if you are acquainted, it is good manners to give a formal greeting.

Politeness also means not using words that should not be used. Words such as "overlapping" and "frequently" are considered to be avoided at funerals, so be careful not to use them inadvertently in greetings.

The point is "Polite, easy, clear points, avoid taboos"

Some people think of greetings as greetings from school principals and guests at the entrance ceremony.
At the same time, it seems that some people imagine something very long. However, funeral greetings do not have to read aloud several long sheets of manuscript paper. It is important to "concisely convey the main points in polite words."

The next funeral may be waiting in line at the funeral hall. Funeral schedules, including cremation times, are often set in 30-minute or hour-by-hour increments. If the mourner's greeting is too long, the funeral home, attendees, crematorium, and monk will be in trouble. Even monks may have many funerals a day, so delaying the schedule with greetings can be a nuisance to other funeral venues.

Greetings should be brief. Hold down the point. Make it easy to understand what you want to say. This is important. As for what kind of greetings you should give, let's keep the following points in mind and summarize them briefly.

Thank you for attending the funeral
Dear deceased
I would like to thank you in the future

If you put these together easily, the greeting will be completed.
"Polite" "Do not use NG words" "Simply keep the main points" for funeral greetings
There are no difficult rules.

The mourner greets at the funeral! Do you have a simple example sentence?

Here are some example funeral greetings. Of course, this is just an example, so there is no problem if you want to say hello in your own words. It's okay if you can express your gratitude to the attendees and close the place as a mourner. You don't have to think hard.

Thank you for visiting the funeral today.
Thank you very much for your kindness during A's life.
We will continue to work together as a family. Thank you very much.

This is a very simple example sentence. If you are acquainted with a small group such as a family funeral, such a short greeting is fine. If the funeral is followed by a cremation, a dinner, etc., you can add words such as "We have a small but deceased place to remember." For those who want to keep things simple, the point is to be aware of "thank you".

Thank you for visiting us today for the deceased 〇〇 (the name of the deceased).
The late XX will be pleased to see you off.
The late XX used to say "family friendship" during his lifetime. As the late XX said, I would like to continue to work together with my family. We look forward to your continued support.
Thank you everyone for today. Thanks to you, I was able to finish the funeral without delay.
Although it is small, we have prepared a seat with gratitude. Please enjoy it slowly. I would like to hear about the memories of the deceased.
Thank you again.

These two example sentences can be used for funerals with a larger number of people than the first one. It's simple but not verbose, but the point is that it's a little longer than 1 while keeping the point. If you want to use it at a funeral where a large number of people gather rather than a small family funeral, this greeting is suitable. Of course, you can use them in combination.

The timing of funeral greetings varies depending on the type of funeral. Sometimes it's in the middle of a funeral, and sometimes it's over. It is also necessary to use it according to the timing. You can add words such as "Thank you for cremation."

Finally

You don't have to think hard about funeral greetings. Even if it's an ordinary greeting, there is an NG word. How about talking about trendy sweets to people who are refraining from sweets for their diet? Also, people who have lost their families and are depressed need to be careful about their language. There are some words that you should avoid in your daily conversation.

In addition, it is important to convey what you want to convey in a concise manner in everyday conversation. If you want to say "good morning" but use a long front mouth saying "Today the rising sun rises and birds fly", you may not be able to convey the feeling you want to convey the most.

The most important thing is to convey what you want to convey. It means telling what you have to tell. Please think about the greetings of the mourner by referring to the points and example sentences I talked about this time.