Many people find it difficult to visit a grave or have a funeral. Starting with "clothes are mourning clothes", there are rules that suit the occasion, such as make-up and manners. I feel that such a rule is "difficult" and "it's hard if I'm ashamed".
For the work and lifestyle that you do every day, you have a process in yourself, but visiting a grave or a funeral is not a daily routine. Visit the grave. It's a funeral. Why don't you rush to check the rules after the schedule is decided and practice the rehearsal in your head?
Even if you practice rehearsal in your head, it's hard to do in reality. It is important to accumulate etiquette and rules for visiting graves and funerals as trivia so that you will not be in trouble in case of emergency. This time, I will talk about visiting a grave during pregnancy as a trivia of manners for visiting a grave.
There are rumors that you should not visit the grave during pregnancy. Is this true? Women will answer about the truth of NG when visiting a grave during pregnancy, which we especially want to keep in mind.
If you first learned the phrase "Don't visit the grave during pregnancy" in this article, you're probably surprised, "Oh, that's right !?"
Today, graves and funerals are much more flexible than they used to be. Tombstones do not have to be in this shape, and there are a wide variety of them, such as heart-shaped and golf ball-shaped, according to the values and tastes of the deceased and relatives. There is no rule that flowers must be fresh flowers when visiting graves, and preserved flowers and artificial flowers have come to be used flexibly according to environmental considerations and the frequency of visiting graves.
However, just because you're flexible doesn't mean you can do whatever you want. Since the grave is also a "public place", certain rules and manners are required.
Also, since the grave is a life-threatening place, there is a kind of taboo. For example, there is a taboo for visiting graves that is rooted in Japan's unique way of thinking, such as "At twilight, that world and this world are mixed, so refrain from visiting graves." Nowadays, the number of people who care about it is decreasing, but I want to keep it as much as possible because the rules, manners, and taboos have the meaning of being established.
The question and rumors that "How about visiting a grave during pregnancy? Is it true?" May be due to the circumstances that led to the rumors, taboos, and rules. Women are particularly worried.
The bottom line is that visiting a grave during pregnancy is perfectly fine. If you can visit the grave during pregnancy, it would be nice to join hands with the relatives who sleep in the grave, hoping for the growth of your child. Visiting a grave during pregnancy is neither NG nor taboo. If you are worried that you should refrain from visiting the grave because you are pregnant, please take care of your physical condition and visit the grave without worrying about it.
There is no problem visiting the grave during pregnancy!
This is the conclusion.
Where did the rumor that "don't go to the grave during pregnancy" come from in the first place? In fact, this NG to visit a grave during pregnancy was often said in Japan a long time ago. I was told to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy for the following reasons.
Risk of illness infection when visiting a grave during pregnancy
Once upon a time, Japan was a burial. Those who died of illness were also buried instead of being cremated as they are now, so there was a risk of getting sick when visiting the grave. Therefore, there was a thought that it is better not to visit the grave during pregnancy because both mother and child may get sick and die if they visit the grave during pregnancy. Currently it is basically cremation. Cremation has significantly reduced the risk of getting sick in the grave.
In the olden days, as a result of leaving the offerings to the graves as they were, beasts and birds devoured the offerings and pooped, which was regarded as a problem in terms of public health and odor. Since measures such as taking the offerings home and disposing of them immediately have been taken, the grave is a clean place in terms of hygiene. Therefore, there is no such thing as "visiting a grave during pregnancy is not allowed due to illness risk and hygiene issues" as in the past.
There is a tradition that if you visit a grave during pregnancy, youkai and evil spirits in the graveyard will take your child. Since the grave was a life-threatening place, it seems that it was thought that "bad things exist" depending on the time of day, the weather, and the area. For this reason, there are still some areas where old-fashioned customs remain, such as putting a mirror in the abdomen to bounce off bad things (those trying to get children) and visiting the grave.
If it remains a local custom, it is a good idea to incorporate it into your pregnancy visit to the grave.
It is also necessary to refrain from visiting graves during pregnancy due to risks in terms of location and physical condition
Depending on the location and physical condition of the grave, it may be better to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy. For example, if you have severe morning sickness or labor pains, it is safer to refrain from visiting the grave in consideration of your physical condition, even if you are not NG during pregnancy. Even if your doctor warns you not to move too much or to stay calm, you do not have to forcibly visit the grave.
In addition, even if you are in good physical condition, it may be safer to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy depending on the location of the grave.
For example, a location where a grave is on a mountain slope and a steep slope continues. If you have a baby in your stomach, the slopes can be painful. Also, if there are many steps in the grave, or if the road is not paved and the roots of the trees are sticking out here and there, it is safer to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy due to its location. It will be hard if you fall.
Visiting a grave during pregnancy is not a problem, but it is not the case if you have to force yourself to visit a grave. If you feel unwell on the tray or equinoctial week, or if you feel uneasy about your feet, it is safer to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy and to visit the grave when you are calm after giving birth. Do not overdo it.
Visiting a grave during pregnancy is perfectly fine. It is neither a violation of manners nor a violation of rules. However, in the past, there was an idea that visiting a grave during pregnancy was not desirable due to illness and folklore, and as a result of that idea remaining to this day, it is rumored that it is better to refrain from visiting a grave during pregnancy. It led to. Visiting a grave during pregnancy does not mean that you will be angry as a violation of rules or etiquette. Please be assured.
However, there are cases where it is desirable to refrain from visiting the grave during pregnancy in consideration of the location and physical condition of the grave. When visiting a grave during pregnancy, consider your physical condition and the circumstances around the grave, and do so within a reasonable range.