A long time ago, it was common to have a home burial between Buddhist altars at home. Even in cases where funerals were held at funeral halls such as funeral halls instead of at home, the Buddhist altars at home were often used, such as by placing the bodies at home. However, in recent years, with changes in working hours and housing, it has become possible to freely choose the funeral style that suits the times. You don't have to be caught up in the idea that "funerals are solid" and "funerals must be rented out in a large venue."
We will explain the characteristics of family funerals and direct funerals with an emphasis on direct funerals. In addition, we will clarify the difference between the family funeral and the direct funeral that appeared according to the times.
There are four features. According to an NHK survey, small-scale funerals such as family funerals and direct funerals are increasing year by year, and in particular, direct funerals are increasing to account for one in five funerals held in the Kanto region (see https). //www.nhk.or.jp/seikatsu-blog/800/152205.html).
When NHK interviewed a funeral company, the funeral company also felt "the problem of cost burden" and "change in consciousness about funerals", and as a result of these changes in thinking and consciousness, direct burial is increasing. It was a story that it might be.
It is true that many people in their daily lives actually feel that not only the connection with the family but also the family form and the way of thinking about the funeral are changing in the present age. I often hear the words "I sent it at a family funeral" and "I think about it at a direct funeral" on a daily basis.
Values and lifestyles change as the times change. As a natural result, funerals, which are inseparably related to human life, will change their shape.
Nowadays, small-scale funerals such as family funerals and direct funerals are increasing. However, the forms of these two funerals are not the same. Let's clarify the difference between family funerals and direct funerals when considering modern funerals and our own funerals.
The big difference between family funerals and direct funerals is "what to do with religious ceremonies."
Family funerals refer to small-scale funerals for up to about 30 people, mainly family members and relatives, and commuting and funerals are often performed "on a smaller scale" as usual. It's easy to imagine that it's a reduced version of what many people imagine as a funeral.
On the other hand, direct burial is a funeral form of cremation only, without ceremonies such as going to night or funeral. At the crematorium, the monk will give a sutra and cremate it as it is. In some cases, we will cut the sutras from the priest and only cremate. Of course, we do not hold funerals or commute as ceremonies.
As you can see, family funerals and direct funerals have something in common that they are "small in scale", but the contents are very different.
There are even more differences between family funerals and direct funerals. It will be clearer if you compare the advantages and disadvantages of family funerals and direct funerals.
Family funerals involve a series of rituals such as funerals and commuting to the night, so you can make the funeral look more like a general funeral.
The disadvantage of the entire funeral is that it is expensive.
For family funerals, the number of attendees can be reduced to a maximum of about 30 people, and the total funeral expenses can be reduced by using a tatami room at the funeral hall instead of a large funeral hall.
It is a funeral form suitable for those who say. It can be said that the merit is that the cost can be suppressed while suppressing the rituals of the important points as a funeral. In addition, since the ritual is performed as a whole, it is also an advantage that the altar and the flow of the ritual can be customized according to the wishes of the bereaved family and the deceased.
The disadvantage is that costs are often kept down, but family funerals tend to be more expensive than direct funerals. Since the ritual is a family funeral, in the case of Buddhist ceremonies, there are also offerings to the priests and dharma names. There is also the disadvantage that if you customize it too much, it will be expensive.
Family funerals include basic funeral rituals, but you may be surprised to see your bill later if you don't plan and get a good estimate because of the high degree of freedom.
In contrast to family funerals, direct funerals are basically not religious ceremonies. In other words, you will suddenly go to cremation without going to night or a funeral.
Even in the case of cremation suddenly, there are cases where the Buddhist priest gives a sutra before the cremation, and there are cases where the cremation is done without any sutra. In the case where the sutra is given, the donation will occur, but in the case where the sutra is not given, the donation will not occur. That is why the biggest advantage of direct funerals is that you can cut funeral costs to the maximum. The estimated cost is said to be about 100,000 to 200,000 yen.
However, since direct funerals are "cremation-only ceremonies" and basically no funerals or ceremonies such as commuting to the night are held, if you plan for a more funeral-like ritual, the cost may jump up compared to a normal funeral. It has the disadvantage of being expensive.
Family funerals and direct funerals are also small funerals, but "following a series of funerals, albeit on a small scale," is a family funeral, which "does not perform religious ceremonies such as commuting at all, or is modest. The difference is that the direct funeral is "I rarely do it. I only have to cremate." Family funerals and direct funerals have something in common that they are small, but the only thing they have in common is that they are smaller, and direct funerals are simpler than family funerals.
Family funerals are suitable for those who want to perform the funeral ritual itself but want to do it simply and with a small number of people. On the other hand, direct funerals are suitable for those who want to avoid rituals such as funerals. Of course, there is a big difference between family burial and direct burial in terms of "whether or not to perform a ritual" and "whether or not cremation is all that is needed", so the cost will also change. Of course, because the content is simplified, there are many cases where direct burial is less costly than family burial.
Regarding funerals, instead of deciding the funeral form as "family funeral" or "direct funeral" and telling the funeral shop, tell the funeral shop professionals from a certain form to the necessary tools. The person who receives it will be in a shape that meets your wishes. Whether it is a family funeral or a direct funeral is only a matter of the final form, so we will not think about the funeral as we want in the form, but will customize it as appropriate in consultation with the funeral shop. Let's do it.