About the timing and procedure of laying bones in the grave

There are many opportunities in my life to be involved in preparing dinner. Since humans cannot live without eating, there are many opportunities to be involved in nature and its preparation. But what if the thing was a ceremonial occasion?

Since human beings were born, they will die sometime. Life and death are incorporated into Japanese life as everyday things. However, when comparing the opportunities related to human death and the opportunities related to the preparation of supper, the latter is overwhelmingly more.

Even those who are good at preparing dinner are not familiar with funerals in life.
I remember going back and forth, but funerals aren't on a daily basis, so it's hard to remember etiquette and preparation. Even an uncle who is about to retire and is familiar with work may not be familiar with funerals. Life and death exist in human daily life, but they are not as easy to repeat as daily life.
This time, I will talk about the "bone-feeding" that is necessary after the death of a person.

The answer is "anytime"! Not even

To tell the truth, there is no fixed time for the bones. There is no rule such as "Please pay your bones within a week just because you died on March 4th." Also, there is no law that requires you to put your bones in the grave. In fact, some families have their bones placed on the altar at home, for example because they do not have a grave.

Others do not lay their bones in their own grave, but instead lay them in a place other than the grave, or choose a method other than bone-cutting, such as bone-cutting. Some people hesitate to pay their bones because they cannot organize their feelings yet.
Bone donation is not something that "must be done by this time", it can be done according to the circumstances of the family.

At the beginning, I suddenly talked about the conclusion. This is the situation and rules of bone feeding in Japan.

There is no rule that the bones must be delivered
Some homes do not have bones
There is also a method other than laying bones in the grave
The bereaved family decides on the bone-laying, or the deceased specifies the method (bone-cutting, etc.) that he or she desires in advance.

This is the answer.

However, in general, the bones are delivered to the grave along the flow. I think this is the reason why many people have the impression that the bones are graves, and many people wonder, "What time do I have to do?", "What is the procedure?", And "When is it?"

First of all, let's talk about the general flow of bone feeding.

What is the procedure for the bone-laying ceremony?

There are two patterns of common bone feeding. After the funeral, cremate and follow the flow
There is one pattern in which the bones are delivered immediately. For this pattern, after the cremation
The attendees of the funeral will head to the graveyard, and the attendees and the mourner will put their bones in the grave.
The other pattern is a pattern in which the forty-ninth day is set as one turning point and the bones are delivered.
The bones are placed on the altar until the end of the 49th day, and at the end of the 49th day, the family puts the bones in the grave.

I explained with the word "general", but since it means "majority" to the last, other than this
It's not that the procedure for bone feeding is bad. Depending on the house, "because I will come together with other hands"
Therefore, even the 100-day memorial service may be placed on the Buddhist altar. Obon and equinoctial week,
In some cases, the first anniversary is used as a delimiter. Besides this, because there is no grave
Sometimes we do the bones after the grave is ready, and to do it in the grave of our hometown.
In some cases, the bones are delivered at the convenience of relatives during long holidays.
In addition to funerals and cremations, there are also cases where a bone-laying ceremony is performed in the form of a "bone-laying ceremony."

Cremation, funerals, and forty-nine days often include cremation as a procedure, but that is not absolute. There is no deadline, so you can pay the bones according to the circumstances and feelings of your house.

If you want to perform a "bone-feeding ceremony" for bone-laying, follow the procedure below.

Contact the manager of the reien or graveyard where the grave is to be laid.
Talk to the monk and ask him to prepare for the memorial service (such as a stupa)
Contact the funeral shop or stone dealer (because you have to move the stones in the grave)
Notify the people who will attend
Confirmation of the permit issued by the local government (a local government permit is required for bone delivery)
Reference http://gyousei-suzuki.sakura.ne.jp/custom5.html
Prepare gifts and gifts for attendees
Bone-feeding ceremony (Bone-feeding)
"There is no rule for bone feeding" is not equal to "freedom"

I would like to talk about one point to note about bones.

There is no deadline for bone delivery, and the conclusion was that it would be okay to have the bones delivered according to the family circumstances.
But not everything is free. For "paying" to the last
Just because there is no time or coercion, it means that you can like your bones.
It's not equal.

For example, Mr. A's house does not have a grave, so he held a funeral but did not lay his bones.
A mortuary tablet and a bone are placed together on the Buddhist altar. "What should I do with my bones" in family discussions
I was in trouble because of the topic. That's because Mr. A's house doesn't have the money to prepare a grave,
It was unlikely that I could afford to prepare a grave for a while.
"There is also the word" scatter ", so why not sprinkle it in a scenic spot in the neighborhood?"
Mr. A thought. Is this forgiven?

Certainly, in recent years, bones have been scattered to the sea.
However, this is just a matter of proper procedure,
It is not always possible to sprinkle bones on your own. If the deceased or bereaved wants to scatter
Let's go through a proper contractor and follow the necessary procedures and preparations.

Finally

There is no deadline for bone delivery, and if you want to deliver bones in the flow of a funeral, or if you have a 49-day or 100-day memorial service
It is done according to the way of thinking of each region and house, such as laying bones as a break.
Of course, if the grave is not ready or if you can not organize your feelings, relatives will gather
This does not apply if you want to do it during a long vacation. To make a bone
It is also possible to schedule a bone-feeding ceremony and deliver the bones.

There are no absolute rules for bone feeding. However, this is just for each household
In the sense that you can go according to the circumstances such as preparing a grave, you can freely scatter the bones
It does not mean that you can bury it in the garden.

Humans will die sometime. The opportunity to lay bones may not come so often, but I would like to remember it as necessary knowledge for funerals.