Among the funeral questions, there are many questions about money. For example, incense. How much you should wrap if you are attending is one of the most frequently asked questions about funeral money.
Similarly, questions about funeral expenses are frequent. It is not uncommon for people to be confused about how much a funeral will cost, even if they have experienced the funeral, because of the ever-changing market prices and funeral forms, saying, "It's different from the time of grandpa's funeral." Funeral costs and funeral prices are probably the most expensive funeral money questions.
Questions about donations are also typical of questions about funeral money. Nowadays, there are a lot of questions about the funeral, such as the market price of the donation, how to wrap the donation, and the timing of handing the donation.
At what timing should I hand over the donations? I will explain in a simple and clear manner the typical "Osamu" of funeral questions.
Before thinking about the timing of giving the donation, let's first review the basic knowledge of the donation.
First of all, the market price of donations varies depending on the scale and form of the funeral. Basically, in the case of Buddhist ceremonies, the deceased will be given a Dharma name. If the name is included, the amount of donation will be higher. On the other hand, if you do not give a dharma name, the amount of donation tends to be lower.
When it comes to funerals, you may have the impression that you rent a funeral hall to perform the funeral, but in recent years there has been an increase in the number of people who cremate immediately and go to the grave in the form of a direct funeral instead of performing a particular ritual. According to an NHK survey, one in five cases is carried out in the form of this direct burial in the Kanto region. (Reference: https://www.nhk.or.jp/seikatsu-blog/800/152205.html)
It is also important to know the timing of the donation at the house where the funeral will be held. Even if you may become a mourner in the future, it is important to know when to give the donation as a basic knowledge of the funeral. However, it is important to know that there are more types of funerals today than in the past, and depending on the form of the funeral, the donation itself may be rarely needed before worrying about the timing of the donation.
After that, think carefully about "what kind of funeral you and your family want" and "if you send the deceased in the form of the desired funeral, do you need the donation itself?", And finally perform in the form of the funeral that requires the donation. It is advisable to carefully examine the funeral knowledge, including the timing of giving the donations, and check with the funeral shop if you have any questions.
For direct burial without calling a monk, the donation will be zero yen. If you want to have a sutra at the crematorium (cremation ceremony), the market price is about tens of thousands to 300,000 yen, and if you invite a monk to perform a series of ceremonies such as a family funeral or a funeral in a large hall, you will be given a donation. The market price is 200,000 to 500,000 yen. However, if you ask for the highest rank of the Dharma name, the price of the offering will go up dramatically. In the case of a hospital name, it may wrap a donation of 800,000 yen or more.
It is necessary to think carefully about "what kind of funeral you want to have" and "what to do with the Dharma name" before the timing of giving the donation. Depending on the form of the funeral, the market price of the donation and whether the donation itself is necessary will change. After deciding on the shape of the funeral, be sure to check the basic knowledge such as when to give the donation.
Now that we have briefly reviewed the market price and funeral of the donations, let's explain the timing of giving the donations.
Before the funeral begins, I have time to meet and greet the monks. It is not a dedicated timing to hand over the donations, but before the funeral (farewell ceremony) begins, the funeral company basically guides the monk to the waiting room and tells you "I have guided you" after the guidance. At this time, it is common for the mourner and the bereaved family to ask the waiting room and say hello to the monk, "Thank you for your time today." This "before the funeral" time is the time to hand over the donations. When you hand over the donation, you don't hand it over, but "wrap it in Fukusa" or "put it on a tray".
A monk may have to go to the next funeral or memorial service immediately after completing one funeral. In addition, we may prepare tools before the funeral and have a funeral meeting with the funeral hall. In many cases, you will have to go to the crematorium in a hurry immediately after the funeral (farewell ceremony) is over, and after the crematorium, you will have to devote yourself (meal) or, depending on the area, you will be laid to the grave as it is. In some cases, it may be called. After the funeral, it's surprisingly fluttering.
It's hard to find the right time to hand over the donations while fluttering after the funeral. You may have lost the timing to hand over the donation, and you may have done something rude to the monk who could not hand it over.
Basically, remember that the timing of giving the donation is "in advance". If you do not have the time to give the donation in advance, or if you do not seem to be able to prepare the donation until the timing before giving the donation, at the stage of greeting before the funeral or at the stage of discussing the funeral schedule with the monk in advance We recommend that you discuss the timing of giving the donation properly.
The timing of giving the donation is not only the funeral, but also the first anniversary, the third anniversary, and the 49th. If you are worried about the timing of giving the donation in the memorial service, it is a good idea to think about the timing of giving the funeral donation in the form of "basically in advance" or "consultation if you cannot give it in advance".
The timing of handing over the donations is basically "advance". When the monk arrives at the funeral hall and enters the waiting room before the funeral begins, he will greet him and give him a donation. If you are unable to prepare the donation at the timing of handing it over, it is a good idea to consult with the temple in advance about the donation.
If you have any questions about the offering, we recommend that you talk to a nearby funeral store or funeral hall. Preparations for the funeral begin suddenly. Be careful not to panic when you have to prepare for the funeral, especially when you have financial questions such as donations and funeral expenses.